We made a fun home video for our sponsor Camelot, Flo's birthday and I change my last name today.
AND SO IT HAPPENED
One evening knarf and I talked about our USA visit, which was some time ago. We also talked about our short separation and what we had then come up in the Liberty Hotel drinking too much Zinfandel: our wedding.
After all that had happened (it was a bumpy ride) the almost 6 months we were confident that we will overcome any future challenges together and would not get a divorce after just 3 months. Somehow it was just a Hirngespirnst, but somehow also a very concrete plan and so when we thought about it some more, I suggested we should get more informed. Why should we get married? Was there a reason? Was there a reason that would speak against it?
Sooner than expected, I had the marriage documents in my hand. We looked over the forms and grinned like two little kids in the sandbox, plotting something forbidden. Should we do it? No one knew about our idea. I just mentioned it to my mother. She told me, I always knew what was right for me, what I should or shouldn't do.
We set up prenups with a lawyer and made an appointment with a notary. We agreed, both of us should not have financial obligations or disadvantages through this bond. We wanted to get married - with as little bureaucracy and risk as possible. Just to get married because we both wanted it.
After the notary and the setting of the date in the town hall it was time to meet the parents. My mother sent me newspaper clippings about "marriage" as well as a card with "I am proud of what you accomplish! Mami ". Although my father did not necessarily make sense of it, because we did not want to start a family and he did not see any real advantages arise from the fact, but had nothing against it.
It was more difficult for his mother. We went one evening after a day in the office and she was already in bed, When he told her, she did not like the idea at all. "Son, this must not be!", "No, I do not find this a good idea!" - I was feeling pretty small next to him on the couch. He needed his birth certificate and that was the real reason why we were here so late. This fact and the fact that she had was already asleep took a bitter aftertaste to our plan. I wish I had not come along to tell her but it was too late. The surprise was out. On the way home I told him I did not want to get married under these circumstances. Finally, this wedding was to bring happiness to all and not to make someone unhappy. A few days later, she apologized for her reaction. The announcement took her by surprise and too sudden. But if he wanted to do it, then he should just do it and we had their blessing.
One evening I practiced my new signature in the kitchen. I had a lot of fun, but I would have liked to share the news with someone, but our mission was "top secret" - so I had to keep it to myself for a bit longer. For our big day, only our families should be around for the official part, and one witness each, his ex-girlfriend and my best friend.
The appointment we had placed on a Friday morning, when his mother had her day off and also Flo's birthday would be on the same day. We planned to film an amateur commercial with all our friends in the afternoon, without them knowing. That was the plan.
We got our wedding bands a week before, and wore them as engagement rings on her left hand to get a feel for it. Buying the bands was fun and we were happy together about the event. I got a beautiful white gold ring engraved with our names and date.
THE BIG DAY - 17.12.1999
Friday morning I woke up and was slightly nervous. It went really fast and just the night before my wedding I spilled oil over my wedding and hoped the stains would come off. Unfortunately, no. I hoped this would not be a bad omen. We drove to Germering to a flower shop where I received a wonderful bridal bouquet with white lilies and red roses. His mother had told him so, that would be the least, if we wanted no frills.
When we arrived at the town hall our witnesses were there neatly cleaned up and the camera was ready. Easy trepidation and with an incredible veil before the eyes, I walked through the door when we were asked to come in. The wedding march was played by an old man on a very old keyboard and I realized what was about to happen.
Suddenly we were standing next to each other and the registrar told us we were about to become "husband and wife". When she said this, I noticed how knarf froze a bit and had tears in his eyes. So far I found everything hilarious, but when I saw that I realized how serious this thing is and how much it means to the both of us. I had to fight with a few tears.
Then they funny organ player switched to Al Bundy's "Love & Marriage" and everyone had a big smile on their faces. It was not a big show, but this moment was quite cynical.
Then we took the wedding party to the "Alter Wirt" were we began to unwrap presents and eat lunch. Our company was very pleasant and I was happy. After dinner and pleasant conversation we went to Burger King where we had arranged to meet with all our friends and co-workers. The transition was a bit of a culture shock. No one knew what we had done only two hours earlier.
Miki noticed the rings first - and gave a monologue about what it meant now. Just friendship or engaged, but then realized that we would wear the rings right and laughed to himself, because the meaning was "married". Haha. Funny.
In the afternoon we filmed a commercial at a lake and all had a lot of fun. It was Flo's birthday and that was reason enough to have a little more fun than usual.
Evening - so was the other plan - we all would hang out together and watch the movie we just made, but we would also show them our wedding video right after. I was an exciting moment to finally spill the beans. We all sat in the living room of our shared apartment and laughed a lot about the footage. When we had all the settings, the other already started to get up and go to bed. We said that they should sit down again and then it started ...
The wedding march began and we stood before the registrar. The faces of Jule, Uli, and Flo were frozen. Jule said, "it's not after it stands now, is it?". It took a few minutes until they were able to comprehend the full extent of this neckline and slightly irritated congratulated.
We then beheaded another bottle of champagne and still celebrating something "our big little days".
The next evening a large house party was announced, in which all friends would come. I was really looking forward to the reactions of his and my friends.
Every time a new impetus of people came who knew us, we put them first into the living room in front of the television to show them the grandiose commercial and then the wedding video. So many different facial expressions I had never seen before. However, I was able to tape after the third time not really see and just watch the people. The rest of the party was enveloped by fog - maybe that was cloud nine?
Optimistic, curious, human bee.