The man of my dreams

This might seem a little odd, but I did not want to give up on the idea to find a person in the big wide world, who walks around and waits for me. With this short list, I'll use my chances so this person will be able to find me.

In other words:
Modest woman looks for perfect man, who can make all her wishes come true!

If you think (after reading til the very end of this page) you are the right fit for me and I won't run away screaming the first time we'll meet (please no mustache), send me an email. And, by the way, I am not desperate. I just want to screen potential candidates so we both don't have to waste our time dating and then finding out we are not compatible at all. So, I know you are out there. If it's you, contact me.

Test for every day life compatibility

Weekday mornings
1. you can get up fast, early and in a good mood, if you have to
2. if there isn't time for breakfast it's no problem for you
3. you just have a cup of tea or coffee in the kitchen
4. you can shower quickly

Weekend mornings
5. you enjoy staying in bed, cuddling and reading
6. having breakfast in bed, a nice brunch with scrambled eggs

Nice weather days
7. if it's nice you want to be outside, maybe at a lake or river
8. going for a walk, hiking, biking, sometimes fast paced, sometimes slow
9. exploring along the way (castles, forests, tree houses,...)
10. building dams, forts, snow men and igloos
11. sailing, snowboarding or hanging out in a row boat on the water
12. head-to-head stargazing at night

Bad weather days
13. you enjoy playing board games, listening to music, reading and reading to each other
14. ironic, cynic and sarcastic books about life and love
15. about crazy ideas, traveling and fairy tales (from authors like Goldt, Droste, Kracht, Watzlawick, Doerrie, and others)
16. you like brainstorming about funny things, crafting collages, writing short stories, drawing, talking, maybe even playing piano
17. going for a walk, biking or swimming in the rain - all with a smile
18. you like writing letters more then screen time
19. if you watch TV you rather watch English movies then soccer or formula 1
20. and thoughtful movies with depth and humor rather than action and noise
21. movies like Chasing Amy, Amelie, Clerks, Before Sunrise and Erleuchtung garantiert

On the road
22. you prefer travelling by foot, bike or public transportation over car or bus
23. train rides are wonderful (see before sunrise)
24. if you need a car it's a VW bus rather than a sports car
25. a good vacation is a mix of relaxation, culture, fun, people and good food
26. one night in a sleeping bag on the beach with bonfire
27. another night in a king bed suite with room service
28. and the next with no sleep at all and partying all night
29. You like it warm rather then cold, but moderate, not tropical
30. staying in a small, quiet village rather than Ballermann.
31. you are waterproof and tough
32. and you like vacationing just the two of us or with friends.

Sports and games
33. you like sports like badminton or swimming in the lake
34. racquetball, paddling in an inflatable raft, wave boarding or a visit to the sauna
35. playing 'Settlers of Catan', UNO, chess and Sorry!
36. doing puzzles and Sudoku
37. climbing a small local mountain rather than Kilimanjaro

Entertainment in the evenings
38. cabarets, improv theater and comedy
39. once in awhile a classical theater, opera or musical
40. sitting in the beer garden with old and new friends
41. going to concerts (hip hop, soul, alternative and rock)
42. hosting cocktail parties and barbecues
43. sitting, chatting and having fun

General
44. smart, but not full of himself
45. helping instead of calling for help
46. active instead of passive
47. adventurous instead of boring
48. discussing and fighting but always fair and with heart
49. rather today than tomorrow
50. you can talk and listen in the right combination
51. better listening and understanding than being grouchy and not getting it
52. rather thoughtful than doing it 3 times and fail
53. considerate and adaptable, if it makes sense
54. loud and crazy, if it doesn't hurt anyone (like neighbors)
55. not too attached (I need my space), but if we hang out together, it's with full attention
56. the sparks should be felt on both sites

Love life
57. unconditional love or love with numbered days, we won't know
58. it makes sense to invest in a relationship, familiarity and continuity are nice and important
59. being spontaneous and planning surprises is fun
60. taking care of others in sickness and crisis
61. it's okay to pass on things that don't work for the other half
62. it's nice to challenge each other
63. being curious, learning and setting new boundaries together
64. writing love letters is not cheesy or unnecessary
65. more heart and head than money and laziness
66. romantic and realistic
67. 1 or 2 kids in a couple of years (starting 2004)
68. family and private life is more important to you than money and career
69. a little bit of jealousy is healthy
70. you want your partner to also be a best friend
71. if the relationship goes bad, cheating can mean the end
72. a single incident/flirt is human and should not end the relationship if both are still happy with the partnership
73. all rules and agreements are equal for both partners
74. making wishes come true is fun
75. being open and honest about problems and needs
76. love means to be together in good and bad times
77. planning goals, vacations and activities together
78. but also saying 'no' and taking some time for yourself

Social life
79. eating out in a revolving restaurant
80. or eating Indian, Mexican, Spanish, Greek, Italian
81. you like eating yummy, $ food but sometimes also a little more fancy
82. a glass of wine or beer, never a keg
83. sometimes a glass more, but never too much
84. having a picnic on the meadow
85. you're always a welcome guest or host
86. not excessive always thoughtful and within means
87. inviting friends for the weekend
88. being welcomed at family reunions, enjoying bad jokes, dancing waltz and playing horseshoes
89. organizing a surprise party for me or our friends
90. you call your friends to do something fun together
91. you like candlelight dinners for two
92. and if you go out by yourself you stay loyal

Homey
93. you like wearing the apron and using the whisk in the kitchen
94. you can relax taking a bubble bath
95. you like grocery shopping and cooking for us or friends
96. you like armchairs better than modern designer furniture
97. you like dressing sporty and casual (please no sweat pants in the house)
98. boxers instead of strings
99. you don't tuck your shirt in
100. you don't enjoy shopping for clothes, especially not with friends
101. you dress casual, sporty and sometimes elegant
102 you are okay wearing a suit for special occasions

Beauty
103. rather sunflower than roses
104. bonfire rather than gas grills
105. wood instead of electronics
106. programming a voice mail or video recorder is an easy job for you
107. if you read this list all til the end and you determined you can only check off about two thirds of this list, you are still in pretty good shape and we should meet.

As an alternative if your name is Thomas, apparently you don't have to score 100 points as I have a thing for 'Thomasse', then you should also contact me. 
;-)